What Are You Reaching Toward this Year?

Wow, we’re already halfway through the first month of this new year! I don’t know about you, but I’ve got some stretch-goals that I plan to accomplish this year and it’s high time to get moving on them. Some of my goals are fun: my wife and I plan to go camping in the Grand Tetons with our children and grandchildren; I want to ride my bicycle over 100 miles in one day (and live to tell about it); and I want to begin building a wooden sailboat.

But I also have some more weighty goals that are sure to stretch my abilities, stamina and faith. Specifically, I’m asking God to increase His influence through me this year significantly. I don’t even know what all that means yet, but I believe it will entail writing and coaching among other things and I’ve already begun working on several new books. A primary goal of mine is to continue to aggressively pursue Jesus Christ daily, asking Him to keep transforming my life.

How about you? What is God doing in your life? How will you become more like Christ this year? What will you do differently? In what ways will your faith be stretched this year? What’s one thing in your life you’d like to shed—permanently? What’s one thing you’d like to add to your life—permanently?

Personally, I’ve found that when I engage a leadership coach I gain more clarity quicker; I’m able to remove difficult obstacles to reaching my goals; and I accomplish more. These are also some of the reasons I love coaching. Through coaching, I get to participate in seeing people’s lives changed. And what is so refreshing and rewarding about that is that coaching empowers them to rely on God and the gifts He has given them to continue bringing this about.

In his book, Leadership Coaching, author Tony Stolzfus provides what he calls the Top 5 Reasons to Coach and Be Coached:

  1. Experience More Transformation. Make radical changes in your own life and see more lasting changes in others.
  2. Grow Faster/Get More Done. Accelerate change and accomplish more without overload.
  3. Unleash People. Stop creating dependence and free up you r time by empowering others to take action.
  4. Develop Leaders. Invest more effectively and efficiently in leaders around you to multiply your impact.
  5. Improve Interpersonal Skills. Learn great tools for building deep relationships and having extraordinary conversations.

What would you like to accomplish this year? How about cultivating richer, more fulfilling relationships? Or launching that project you’ve dreamed of for years? How about ditching a habit you’re sick of lugging around with you? Or how about wowing your boss with the completion of a project that’s looming over your head?

Whatever your goal, I’d love to help you get there! Contact me and let’s set up a coaching schedule, roll up our sleeves and get going!

Rob Fischer

Comrades in Arms

Men, here we are again nearing the end of one year and entering a new one. I don’t know about you, but each New Year I try to take stock of my life and where I’m headed. In view of this, which of these statements apply to you?

  • My relationship in Christ seems stale and I want to rekindle my vision for fullness of life in Him.
  • I’m stuck in a sinful or destructive practice and I want to break free.
  • I haven’t been in the Word and praying lately, but I want to solidify these disciplines in my life.
  • My relationship with my wife isn’t what it should be, but I want to love her well.
  • My relationship with my children has deteriorated and I want to rebuild their trust and love.
  • In the New Year I want to renew my focus to courageously follow Jesus Christ.

Perhaps you own one or more of these statements or could add other similar ones. Allow me to share with you what I believe to be the most direct and effective way to live a victorious life in Christ. Whether we are currently struggling not, we all need a comrade in arms.

Most men see themselves as loners. If you find yourself chronically struggling with the same old challenges in your walk with Christ, it’s probably because you’re trying to go it alone. Somewhere along the line we have bought into the deception that we can (should) live the Christian life alone. We think we need to do life and follow Christ on our own and that to team up with a comrade in arms would somehow be a show of weakness—a crutch.

Men, that’s the wrong metaphor! Teaming up with a comrade in arms to follow Christ is no more a crutch than it is for a quarterback to team up with his receiver. We should not attempt alone what Christ meant for us to accomplish in the company of others.

What is a comrades-in-arms partnership? This is a spiritual partnership between two or more men in which they propel each other forward into deeper relationship with Christ. Do you want to move forward in your relationship with Christ? I know of no more effective way to do that than through spiritual partnership. Here are five characteristics of a comrades-in-arms relationship:

Five Characteristics of Spiritual Partnership

  1. Gender-specific. Comrades in arms are men with men and women with women pursuing relationship with Christ. We adhere to this characteristic for the sake of effectiveness and propriety. If you’re married, your wife should be your spiritual partner as well, but men need other men. Look at Jesus’ example with His disciples.
  2. Spend time together in real life. If my comrade in arms only sees me in the context of church or a coffee shop, he won’t see how I interact with my wife and family, or in traffic, or at play. Note how Jesus spent time with His disciples in real life.
  3. Love and care for each other. A comrade-in-arms relationship is mutual and reciprocal. We’ve got each other’s back and we’re there for each other through thick and thin.
  4. Challenge each other boldly from God’s Word. We grant each other permission to ask “tough” questions and we deliberately spur one another on to deeper relationship with Christ. Growth in Christ is not accidental. His call on our lives is still active and relevant: “Follow Me!”
  5. Pray with and for each other. We lead each other into the presence of God through prayer and call on Him to transform us. There is something very powerful when two or more men agree in prayer, calling on the name of Almighty God!

Examples of some “Tough Questions”

  • “What is God doing in your life right now?”
  • “What is God showing you from his Word?”
  • “What one thing in your life is preventing you from enjoying God fully?”
  • “In what ways are you currently leading your wife and family closer to the Lord?”
  • “How well are you loving your wife right now?”
  • “What are your greatest joys/challenges in walking with Jesus right now?”
  • “What’s one thing you’d like to see Christ change in you?”
  • “In what ways is God using you to model Christlikeness to others?”

Let me boldly challenge you with this verse: “And Saul’s son Jonathan went to David at Horesh and helped him find strength in God.” 1 Samuel 23:16 Who is your Jonathan? Who is your comrade in arms? Don’t go into the New Year without one!

For more information on initiating a comrades-in-arms relationship read my short book, Comrades in Arms—The Power of Pursuing Christ in the Company of Other Men. To order click here.

©2013 Rob Fischer